Relationship Advice for Nurses Dating Nurses


Any relationship in which at least one partner works will face challenges. Relationships where both partners work may grapple with even more. But what happens when you work in the same field—perhaps even in the same office or facility?

Nurses and medical professionals who are in a relationship have their own set of challenges in addition to the typical struggles of dating. From long shift hours to working opposite shifts from one another, it can seem nearly impossible to nurture a healthy relationship, but it is possible. Here are some tips:

Try to Keep Personal Things Personal

Yes, gossip is going to happen among co-workers, even if you don’t work the same shift. Don’t fuel the fire. If someone specifically asks one of you how things are going, try to answer politely but with reserve. You don’t have to lie…you just don’t have to be “the whole truth and nothing but the truth” honest.

Absolutely do not go around telling everyone how wonderful your new squeeze is, broadcasting your private moments, or even confiding in a co-worker about problems you’re having. If you think gossip circulates quickly under normal circumstances, you won’t believe how quickly it goes around when there are two co-workers involved. And when it goes around, it will affect your relationship, make no mistake about that.

Seriously Weigh Out the Pros and Cons

If you’re only entertaining the notion of dating a co-worker, it’s a good idea to really consider all of the possible implications before taking the next step. People who truly are great matches shouldn’t avoid each other simply because of possible workplace challenges. However, you should both be aware that workplace breakups are often much nastier and more awkward than other breakups.

You will still have to see each other and interact with the same people. If it’s not much more than a curiosity or minor crush, it may be best to leave well enough alone. You may need to have that awkward discussion before you start dating. After all, as uncomfortable as that might be, it will be infinitely more uncomfortable to deal with the consequences after you’ve had an intimate relationship.

Remember Your Professionalism Above All

No, you don’t have to keep it on the absolute down low, but you should try to be discreet. Running off to the break room together or grabbing a quick kiss at the nurse’s station probably aren’t the best ideas. You should strive to act exactly the same way toward each other while at work as you did before you became an item. Save the smooching for private time.

Make Major Decisions With Major Discretion

When you think you’re ready to take the next step and move in together, it’s a good idea to spend plenty of time discussing it. You might want to if you’ve just been engaged, or work opposite shifts and simply want to be able to spend more time together. Do be aware, however, that this is a big step for anyone, and especially for people who cohabitate the workplace.

Don’t just take an entire weekend trying to squeeze the contents of two small apartments into one. Consider seeking out a self storage facility to house some of the larger and more valuable items of the person who will be moving. You won’t start out this new journey by cluttering up your living space. As you discover your new normal, you’ll know when it’s time to go all in.

Embrace All of the Perks That Come With Dating Someone in the Same Building as You

As challenging as co-worker romances can be, there are definite benefits. You probably will get to see each other more often than other couples. No one else out there will understand the challenges you face quite like someone who’s right there going through it with you. So you do have an incredibly sympathetic shoulder to cry on regarding workplace woes.

Just do be careful not to spend every waking moment talking to your honey about those problems at work. A cry for encouragement every once in a while is fine, but try not to make a habit of it. Enjoy being able to carpool, share lunches, and knowing exactly when the scheduled holidays are. Just be respectful that this is work and that the others around you really don’t want to witness your relationship, no matter how much they may ask about it.

Have you ever dated a co-worker before? How did it turn out? What challenges did you face that were a surprise to you? Share your questions, comments, and tips below!

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Kayla Matthews

Kayla Matthews is a healthy living blogger with a passion for productivity and motivation. You can read more of her Nursing Feed posts by following her on Google+ and Twitter, or you can check out her site, for more posts!

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